30 thoughts on my 30th birthday

have you heard? it’s my birthday.

today i turn 30 (sounds fake, but ok) (i did check my calendar before publishing this, just in case, i guess, that i forgot what day it was) so in observance of that, here’s 30 musings from this past year that are more observations or life details than “advice.” once again, i would never advise anyone to do anything the way i’ve done it.

1. it’s easy to be a jerk but it’s even easier to be nice. people will remember both!
2. if you are determined enough, and you have just enough budget for it, and you write the most insane mac writing chase utley a fan letter email to a man on long island who owns an ice sculpture company, you too could have a shrimp cocktail luge at your 30th birthday party for $400.
3. your identity and sense of self-worth exist outside of the tangible stuff with your name on it that gets published. i wish someone had told me this sooner.
4. sometimes you get the mr. softee cone before you make dinner. you can’t control when the mr. softee truck arrives, you can only control your response to its arrival.
5. always: hold the door, smile and say hi to your neighbors, tip your mail carrier and super at the end of the year. everything else is optional.
6. i would be lost without my group chats, which have become some of my closest friendships and biggest champions. when i got laid off my group chats sprang into action and brought me flowers and fancy…